"Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend, somewhere along in bitterness."
2 ; Boy Friends, of sorts.
Not a boyfriend ( one word ) as in those who you are romantically involved with, rather a boy friend ( two words ) as in those who are of the opposite sex and are friends. Perhaps best friends. Whatever, now it's clear what I mean.
I think having a very good friend of the opposite sex is a fantastic thing.. not the right word but i can't think of what i want to say... Anyways, when you have the opportunity to have such a good friend, I find it very important to have a strong relationship with this person. When such a great bond is formed, there are so many things a boy-girl friendship has that a girl-girl or boy-boy relationship doesn't. For example, advice for love interests is easy to obtain because you can share advice knowing, somewhat, what the other side of the situation is like. And if you're lucky, like I was, you could share anything with that person, without the awkwardness.
Now, there is one major factor that could truly affect the closeness of a boy and a girl. A love interest. While the one person is always good for advice, and asking what the interest would like in certain situations; many relationships can't handle this. For example, I strongly believe that if there is enough trust-- which is a key factor to a healthy relationship -- then a best friendship should not be a problem. However when somebody has "a little green monster on their back called Mr. Jealousy" ( A Cinderella Story , at least where I heard it , probably been in a lot more , oh well ) . A lot of significant others are threatened by the close relationship that two people can share. To a point, I can understand but on another hand it's up to the other person to decide how much they're willing to sacrifice for the chance at love. Keep in mind how I stated I was a hopeless romantic.
In my previous relationships -- although when I make it plural I really only mean two -- there was enough trust, on my part at least, that I wasn't worried about him speaking with other girls or having good friends that were other girls, which he did have. For the most part, he was trustworthy as well which I was happy about. However, that being said, the other half of the friendship, not so much.
Where is the line between a friendship and a relationship? Do you think two people can keep a strong relationship while in a romantically involved relationship? I do, and I hope that other young adults can find a relationship that I had and have the privilege of it being able to withstand a sexual relationship. And even when friendships dwindle to nothing due to a relationship and the two people seem to "rekindle the fire" of sorts, will the friendship ever be the same? I've had friends go through fall outs with their close friends and when they do reconnect their relationships don't seem to be the same; whether it be the harsh words shared between the two, the time period where they hadn't talked, or it could simply be that the two people have matured.
But regardless of what the reason, I know that it sucks, and I've seen the hurt they've gone through, and how much they miss the old relationship, that it seems may never return.
Another factor --- ( I'm watching Fear Factor, so I found this word ironic ) --- an attraction between the two friends. When you know that much about a person and you are so open with that person, does an attraction occur? A guy ( or girl ) that you can talk to that stuff about is very attractive. Do feelings between the friends have an affect on their relationship? Do they ignore their feelings to save the relationship or do they try the relationship out? See, it's quite the predicament. And when you push the feelings aside, do things get more awkward, when the other person knows how they feel? Does the little green monster on their back come back when the person moves on? Hm.. Just ideas.
When the relationship comes back, but is then somewhat broken up again due to whatever.. I guess we just have to accept that not everything can be how it once was after circumstances have changed......
Long post, but I appreciate it if you stuck with it.
Okay, that's it.
Laterrr.
"Let him know that you know best, cause after all you do know best."
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